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09:57 AM | 20-01-2020

I am 76 year old and live alone as I lost my wife three years ago. How to reduce stress?


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07:14 PM | 20-01-2020

Hello Prakas,

The best thing to start now is to take up a hobby. Start with a new thing daily, live your days by doing things that you have missed out in the daily routine. Now is your time to start understanding life and give time to it. There is a lot of marathon for your age group which happens in many cities you can enroll in them.

Painting, pottery or yoga classes are what you can depend on. These things are something that you can start with. Stress should be left behind as now it is time to live again. Meditate, learn music therapy it should help you.

Thank you

09:08 AM | 22-01-2020

Thanks for reply

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05:35 PM | 27-02-2020

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06:21 PM | 21-01-2020

Sir, I can understand that living with someone for decades together and suddenly losing them feels like the urge to live is lost.

  • Feeling as if you have no purpose anymore.
  • Having difficulty performing everyday activities.
  • Experiencing continued feelings of guilt, or blaming yourself for your loved one’s death.
  • Wishing you had died as well.
  • Losing the desire to socialize.

are some of the natural feelings that you might feel.

There is no right or wrong way to engage yourself and come out of the grief.

Physical activities :

  • If you are a person who loves to get engaged in physical activities, going to a public park and interacting with senior citizens helps.
  • You can also go for long walks.
  • You can spend time in doing some gardening. I know one such person who started a wonderful garden after he retired and had nothing else to focus on. When you see the results of your love that you have for your wife showered on your plants, your joys will return. There is always abundant joy in seeing life unfold in front of your eyes.
  • If there is a way you can do teerth yatra and spend time traveling, that's the best.

Emotional engagement :

  • Spend time in reading spiritual books, listening to spiritual lectures, getting back to what you did not have time for in the past.
  • Listening to music.
  • Spending time looking at the next generations in your family and seeing them happy.

I am not old enough to advise you, but everyone who was born has to go back alone too. We all have a spouse to learn from each other and move on in our soul journies. You see, families don't separate across lifetimes. You are sure to meet your wife in some other body in the future. I am sure you are grateful for the time she decided to spend with you and once her karmic journey ended, she had to move on and so will everyone else. My mother is alone too after my dad passed away from cancer. She improved her health and is now managing to live alone, doing all the outside work which she never bothered to understand in the past. Like this human beings will find a way to engage themselves and its also time to move on. Your wife won't be able to see you sad and move on too. She has gone to a happy place. As humans, if we are open we can adapt to many situations in life. You can choose to continue to be stressful, make your adrenals weak which will impact your health. Someone else might become sad about your condition while you are alive. We have to choose to always be healthy and independent as long as we live. Death is not in anyone's' hands. Death is not an end to any soul journey too. Trust that you will cross paths with your wife's soul again. We never truly lose the people that we love, even to death. Emotional weakness is one of the biggest causes of a decline in physical health.

When you have lost someone that you love, you gain an angel that you know. Treasure your memories and make happier ones to add to that.

Stay blessed sir. If you want to talk to me on coming out of your emotional stress, I can be reached athttps://rzp.io/l/1LR1mH1

Smitha Hemadri (educator of natural healing practices)

09:24 AM | 22-01-2020

My Dear Smitha
I am indeed thankful for your kind and frutfull advice .
I have overcome from the grief but at time find myself all alone .I tried to divert my mind to do some activities but very difficult to forget the. Memories cherished with my wife
After her departure I am suffering 😭 with so many element of health issue which brings negative thought in my mind .
Thanks once again for solace

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02:02 PM | 21-01-2020

Older people are especially vulnerable to loneliness and social isolation and it can have a serious effect on health. Whatever the cause, it's shockingly easy to be left feeling alone and vulnerable, which can lead to depression and a serious decline in physical health and wellbeing.

Some Specific Measure to Keep You Engaged or Alleviate Loneliness:

  1. Invite friends for herbal tea/coffee- This could make you comfortable as it would generate social interaction

  2. Keep in touch by phone -Having a chat with a friend or relative over the phone can be the next best thing to being with them.

  3. Learn to love computers -If your friends and family live far away, a good way to stay in touch, especially with grandchildren, is by using a personal computer or tablet

  4. Get involved in local community activities -These will vary according to where you live, but the chances are you'll have access to singing bhajans or walking group, book clubs, etc

  5. Fill your diary- It can help you feel less lonely if you plan the week ahead and put things in your diary to look forward to each day, such as a walk in the park or going to a local coffee shop, library, or museum.

  6. Get out and about -Don't wait for people to come and see you – travel to visit them if you are mobile.

  7. Help others -Use the knowledge and experience you have gained over a lifetime to give something back to your community.

Some other supportive ways to keep you healthy, namely

  1. Stay active and cultivate a habit of regularly exercising, which is good for your physical and emotional health. 
  2. Don't drink alcohol. Alcohol is considered to be a natural sedative and avoiding is the best policy
  3. Get some sleep. Some improper sleep patterns could increase the problem. It is very essential for a normal individual to have at least 7- 8 hours of sound sleep
  4. Yoga and Meditations could be beneficial. There are some specialized practices that could be practised under the guidance of well-trained yoga teacher.
  5. Eat a healthy diet. Consumption of less oil, avoid white food items ( white sugar, maida, salt) sugared drinks, junk food and spicy food.
  6. Practice deep breathing along with pranayama could reduce anxiety to a great level.

09:42 AM | 22-01-2020

My Dear Dr.Sangeeth
Thank you so much for sharing my grief and fruitful suggestion for which I will be indeptfull to you .
Most of the suggestion suggested to overcome my problem I am following but sitting alone difficult to pass the time .
I go for sleep at 9.30 or 20 and get up at 4.30 or 5 .Do some exercise and go for walk and walk at least 3 km in the morning and same in the evening . Go for movie and evening spent time with Sr.Citizene
After my wife death I am suffering from so many element that I have to depend on medicine .
Any how I will try to follow your advice .
Thanks once again for sharing your views with me
Thank

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